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Susan's thoughts - Children and Dissociation
" Children naturally try to protect themselves from the pain of inadequate love. They learn to separate and distance themselves from that causes them pain by contracting or shutting down. Disassociation is our minds way of saying no and turning away from our sensitivity, our need for love, our grief and anger about not being loved just for who we are. All relationship problems stem from the wound of unlove. The wound from the childhood conditioning, I am NOT LOVED as I am. It recreates the mood of unlove. In that, we set out to prove our value and our goodness to them. If they can only see us as good, we would not have to experience the pain that is so “familiar” and maybe this time we could experience feeling truly loved as we are. They can’t give you your value they can only mirror what they see, and try to prove their value and their lovability." |
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